“Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me,
and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me;
and whoever does not take up his cross
and follow after me is not worthy of me.
Several years ago a woman spoke to me about her daughter who lived in a distant city. She had not heard from her in several years. She knew that some of her other children were in touch with this daughter and she was okay. But she would not talk to her mother.
The lady wondered what she should do about that. There seemed to be nothing that could be done. After we talked a while, this passage from today's Gospel came to my mind. "...whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me..."
To my surprise, the lady accepted that teaching as directed to her heart. And she was comforted. She seemed to be a devout person but not especially scrupulous. Not one to quote scripture to strangers or anything like that.
It sounded like a very severe teaching. But for her it sounded like the voice of her Lord and Savior. If it was a word of rebuke, it could only be welcomed as that familiar, wonderful voice we all hear in prayer. I don’t know now how she understood these words, or what words she used to explain it to herself.
I do know that I have often thought about what they mean to me. I left my home in Kentucky to enter the seminary when I was thirteen. As a Franciscan I have travelled far from home and family; and accepted transfers and assignments without considering how close or far they were from Kentucky. My home has been in friaries, on the Gospel Road, in God's kingdom, in whatever nation or state I might reside.
As a pastor, chaplain, and preacher I have not pretended to know what the Lord’s words mean to everyone who attends the Church or reads the Bible. I cannot say how anyone should live their life. That is far beyond my paygrade; but I am sure God's demand is uncompromising. It is also quite reasonable, for no human being stands alone against the universe. I am not the “master of my fate,” or the “captain of my soul,” as William Ernest Henley boasted.
Nor does anyone love or serve another human being with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. And yet we are meant to do that; we are custom built to be servants to a lord, slaves to a master, and sheep to a shepherd. Human beings instinctively look for something or someone to serve. We are designed as members of a human community and our identity can never stray from that endlessly complex relationship. Those who do not wait upon and worship God, inevitably find something -- a fearless leader (der Führer) an ideology, or a cause. Or we end up serving ourselves alone, worshipping the self, condemned like prisoners to solitary confinement because the self is not worthy of myself.
The Jewish philosopher, Emmanuel Levinas, quoting Dostoevski, said. “We are all responsible for all, for all men before all, and I more than all the others.” These philosophers, one a Jew; and the other, a Christian, saw that being a human being necessarily includes the purpose and mission of being for others. Levinas speaks of the command that every human face represents to the self. It is more than an irrational demand; it is a command that I must honor the dignity of everyone I meet. Because I cannot see my own face; I learn who I am and my purpose in life in the face of another.
Someone might say, “But I didn’t ask to be born;” and that is true. But you are responsible for your being nonetheless, and your being owes a debt of gratitude to God and to others for being born, whether you accept that debt or not. It is the blessing and privilege no one can decline, though they might hate, ignore, dismiss, or deny it. Nor is my debt to others cancelled if no one is grateful for what I do for them. That’s on them, not me.
The saved are those who have embraced and welcomed the responsibility of being human. I fail often – I know and cannot deny that– but neither my responsibility nor God’s grace goes away. We have these promises from God our Father, a promise which Jesus has renewed,
I am with you always, even to the end of the world.
Whoever receives you receives me,and whoever receives me receives the one who sent me.
With that assurance, which comes as a commission, we live in this world knowing we are citizens of God’s kingdom, a kingdom which is to come, and everyone who receives us will be saved with us.














