"Because of the hardness of your hearts
he wrote you this commandment.
But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
So they are no longer two but one flesh.
T he twentieth century, with its ultra-violent wars and revolutions saw a theological reawakening in apocalyptic literature with its ominous intensity, and I will confess to my own fascination with it. Since early in my priesthood, despite having little direct contact with those Christian sects whose spirit and theology are driven by that urgency, I have tried to understand what is meant by the word with its multiple depths of meaning.
As I have experienced Roman Catholicism, our traditions, symbols, and even our Canon Law has come to terms with that dimension of religion. We retain the urgent immediacy of the apocalyptic -- expecting the Second Coming at any time, on any given day -- while sending missionaries to all parts of the earth to build new churches, open new seminaries, and plan for the next century.
And I see dimensions of the apocalyptic in our celebration and practice of marriage. The Jewish religion of Jesus's time recognized the permanent quality of marriage. From the beginning God intended man and woman to be joined as one flesh, as if their two bodies were one despite their separation while Adam slept. Men and women share a reproductive system that produces offspring only when they come together. Their spiritual oneness is restored by their marriage, and their reproductive freedom should not be violated by separation or divorce.
But things happen. People die, leaving young, desirable, lonely spouses. Sometimes external forces like war, exile, or the economy separate couples permanently and irrevocably. Some people marry prematurely, before they are ready for the serious responsibilities of marriage. Separations of husbands and wives happen; people need partners, orphans want parents, and leaders both civil and religious must deal with it.
Whether "Moses" or "the Mosaic Law" recognized the problem hardly matters, it had to be addressed and so, "Because of the hardness of your hearts he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation...." it wasn't supposed to be this way.
In God's kingdom there is no divorce. It is neither necessary nor good. And those who live as if they are fully, deeply aware of God's sovereign rule marry and remain married for life. They make it happen daily regardless of the demands of the world, their personal difficulties, and its extraordinary sacrifice.
They practice that awareness of God's familiar nearness and judgment with habits of daily prayer, conscious study of their faith, practicing Church with its voluntary, social, and recreational opportunities, and so forth. They share their past life, present activities, and future possibilities; even as they recognize their need for apartness and space. They are present to one another even when they're on opposite sides of the planet. Marriage is a totally consuming way of life, and apocalyptic explains that dimension of totality.
When the Lord comes there will be no time for hesitation. His coming will be seen from east to west, and north to south; "one will be taken and another left!" Everyone will cease whatever they are doing and recognize their God. Some for the first time in their lives; others as they have known him all along. Those who do not worship Him in that moment will regret their reluctance forever.
Married couples know something about that urgent immediacy. There are moments when the spouse makes a demand that must be addressed now. It may be a medical emergency or an accident. It may be the unexpected death of a loved one, an emotional crisis, or a traumatic memory that suddenly comes to life again. (Combat Veterans and their spouses become very familiar with those crises.) It may be the spouse's issue but it's theirs because they are one and must empathically feel everything together.
I believe marriage is one way Catholics know and experience the apocalyptic dimension of our faith. The Sacrament reminds the world of the presence, authority, holiness, and beauty of God.